Shadowplay: Reclaiming Our Selves on the Dark Side When we explore our inner darkness in this shamanic journey, we can reclaim forbidden feelings, live out all of our personae, explore archetypal roles, and use the boundaries of an erotic role-play scene to safely experience aspects of ourselves that don’t fit in everyday reality. Learn how to set up a scene for journeying in tender places, how to discover and deal with emotional limits and safety, and how to get real juicy with all that dark stuff. We will discuss how trance and erotic role-play can generate personal growth and discovery, and then we will enter into a shamanic journey in the form of a guided visualization to meet one of our selves from the Dark Side. Please wear loose clothing and bring a pillow or mat to sit on if you can - there will be chairs for those who can’t work on the floor. Please bring something to write on or with - we will be journaling about this journey. This is a participatory workshop, and will always be set up so that choices for how to participate will respect your limits.
STANFORD UNIVERSITY Conference on FAITH AND SEXUALITY Friday October 19th, 9 AM to 5 PM Arrillaga Alumni Center
I will present a workshop on the exploration of fantasy stories as journeys into Shadow and healing paths through spiritual connection
LONDON, ENGLAND Talk: Tues 3rd Dec Workshop: Thurs 5th - Sun 8th Dec With Sacred Pleasures
I am very excited to return to London, England, for a talk and workshop with Sacred Pleasures.
At the talk I will share stories from my journey and reflect on the connection between sex and spirit. During the workshop (which I co-teach with London Faerie & Claire Black from Sacred Pleasures) we'll explore and experience the power of BDSM for healing and personal transformation.
Reclaiming Desire With Dossie Easton and Deborah Anapol
Open Secret Bookstore C Street San Rafael $108 Early Bird Price.
Dossie Easton, author of The Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy and Deborah Anapol, author of Love Without Limits and Polyamory in the 21st Century, join forces to offer an extraordinary day of exploring the power of desire – how it works and how to find it if it’s gone missing. While we need not act on every desire, when we deny what we feel, we cast our disowned selves into the shadow land along with our passion and excitement. Together we’ll journey through the obstacles and fears which can block our natural energy flow, and learn a variety of ways to open the gates to ecstasy.
“We are all the more one because we are many. For we have made ample room for love in the gap where we are sundered. Our unlikeness reveals its breadth of beauty radiant with one common life, Like mountain peaks in the morning sun. Rabindranath Tagore
IntiNet Resource Center http://www.lovewithoutlimits.com P.O.B. 4322, San Rafael, CA 94913,USA, 415/507-1739, firstname.lastname@example.org
Registration Information for Reclaiming Desire with Deborah Anapol and Dossie Easton
FINANCES Our records show that space has been reserved for ______ person(s). Requests for refunds made in writing prior to October 5 will be honored less a $25 processing fee. No refunds are possible after October 5 but you may transfer your registration to someone of your choosing.
SCHEDULE We will begin promptly at 11 am so please plan to arrive a few minutes earlier and allow time to find parking if you are driving. We will have a 30 minute tea break around 2 pm. Feel free to bring a snack or light lunch, or plan to purchase something at Open Secret or in the neighborhood, but we are wanting to wait until we close at 6 PM to have a leisurely meal time.
LOCATION We will be meeting in a private room at Open Secret Bookstore at 923 C Street in San Rafael, CA 94901, between 3rd and 4th. It’s a 5 minute walk from the San Rafael bus terminal. For further directions and locations of parking garages, go to http://www.opensecretbookstore.com/Directions.html.
WHAT TO BRING WITH YOU This is an experiential event so wear comfortable clothing that’s easy to move and breathe in. Cushions, backjacks, and chairs are provided but we recommend you bring something to lie on – a blanket, yoga mat, sarong – whatever works for you. A water bottle Pen and paper if you want to journal about your experience
DIVERSTIY DAY at the WRIGHT INSTITUTE Saturday, January 28, 2012
The Wright Institute is presenting it's diversity day conference all day Saturday, with 4 presenters representing various communities and yours truly will be speaking, right after lunch about secxual diversity.
The Wright is on College Avenue in Berkeley at 2728 Durant Avenue, and you can check their website to reserve.
DISeptember 30 through October 2
Dallas's annual leather conference, a sweet and welcoming event. I will be teaching Ethical Sluttery and Radical Ecstasy.
www.beyondvanilla.org for further information and registration.
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October 16th, 2011
Make Your Dark and Dirty Dreams come True with Dossie Easton London Playshop
A workshop in fantasies and the Shadow Led by Dossie Easton with London Faerie
Sunday October 16th, 12 - 7 pm The Pot, East London (nr Stratford)
brand-new one-off workshop with London Faerie. This is a rare
opportunity to study BDSM in an intimate setting with one of the world’s
finest and most established educators.
During this workshop
Dossie will explore how to turn your kinky fantasies into hot juicy
reality, and also delve into working with the Shadow – the point at
which kinky play becomes a space for healing. This will be an intimate
workshop limited to 20 participants. We expect it to sell out very
quickly so book your ticket soon!
www.sacredpleasures.com for registration
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October 21 through October 23
Dossie in Amsterdam!
& BOOK SIGNING Friday 21 October, ca. 19:30-22 h. at Mail &
Female, Nieuwe Vijzelgracht 2, 1017 HT, Amsterdam, tel 020-6233916 Dossie
will talk about Polyamory, open relationships and other adventures and
present the second edition of "The Ethical Slut". There will be time to
listen, ask questions and buy a book to have signed by Dossie herself.
The exact time and price for this lecture will be announced on the
website of the store at a later date. See: www.mailfemale.com for
further information. The reading will be in English.
MAKING FRIENDS WITH YOUR JEALOUSY Saturday 22 October, Amsterdam (city centre), 9:30-17 h. How
do we manage our non-monogamous lifestyles with full respect for all
the members of our sexual constellations? How do we deal with conflict,
jealousy, time, roles, mundane life, and manage to have fulfilling and
connected relationships with all our lovers? What communication skills
make it possible to negotiate our relationships without endless
fruitless arguments? In a full-day workshop, we will have time to
explore visions of our lifestyles, negotiate the edges, communicate
about needs and feelings and sex, and find out who we get to be in all
these amazing relationships. We will also be working with that complex
of emotions that you call jealousy. You can explore and safely move into
ownership of your jealousy while you learn to take care of yourself in a
loving manner when you feel jealous. You can immediately apply these
'jealousy-unlearning-skills' as you meet emotional challenges of new
friendships and loving connections. These are the skills that successful
sluts have used to create a community of lovers where everyone gets
their needs met and no one gets done wrong. • Workshop language is English
RADICAL ECSTASY Sunday 23 October, Amsterdam (city centre), 9:30-17 h. For
thousands of years, seekers have used physical and emotional extremes
to achieve transcendence and exaltation. Today, many BDSM and leather
practitioners are discovering the potential of SM practice to reach
personal, interpersonal and spiritual goals. Perhaps you've touched the
edges of transcendence during your BDSM play. Maybe you've had one or
two experiences in which you've merged with your partner or with the
whole universe, or lost your place in space and time, or left your body.
Or perhaps you're already a seasoned explorer in the realms of spirit,
ritual, trance and ecstasy. Either way, you'll discover new pathways to
bliss during this day of theory and practice. From the basics of raising
erotic e nergy through breath and movement, through more advanced
exercises with clips and floggers, all the way to an end-of-weekend
extravaganza of ecstasy, this will be a Sunday you'll never forget! • Workshop language is English
workshop: 55,- euro. Price includes coffee, tea and sandwiches for
lunch. Both workshops: 100,- euro. Price includes c
Saturday, July 9 2:30 to 5:00 pm
Deep River Poets
The Jung Institute 2040 Gough Street San Francisco CA 94109
January 9, 2011, Sunday, 6 - 8 PM
Society of Janus Presents: THE TAO OF DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSION
Center for Sex and Culture 1519 Mission Street, San Francisco
Using both SM stimuli and Tantric breathing, we will explore the dynamics of power and powerlessness, control and helplessness, and the exploration of states of consciousness that you will find in these practices. Couples and singles are welcome, you don't have to be a Janus member to attend. And, while there is definitely a spiritual aspect to this practice, you are not asked to believe in anything except your own experience.
Please wear comfortable, loose clothing. Bring pads or a blanket to sit on, pillows if you like, mostly we will work on the floor. There will be chairs for those whose backs require them. All exercieses will be done with many options, and choices of distance or closenss with partners. Please bring: ROPE, one long piece, 35 - 50 feet, and a couple of shorter pieces, around 12 feet, and a blindfold.
December 10th, Friday, 5:30 to 7:30
Modern Love: A Panel About Open Relationships
At Good Vibrations' Polk Street Gallery (1620 Polk between Sacramento and Clay) A panel of experts will open up about non-monogamous relationships of many types at a panel discussion at Good Vibrations. Co-curated by its Staff Sexologist Carol Queen and fimmaker Andrew Sullivan.
Panelists will include me, Dossie, and Sarah and Chris of "Kiss", Phillipe Lewis, Carol Queen and Andrew Sullivan.
October 22 - 24, 2010, Seattle
POLY LIVING - SEATTLE
October 22 - 24, 2010
Join Polyamorists from all over the country for the third Poly Living conference in honor of Poly Living’s Creator George Marvil. Over a hundred open, intelligent and fun loving people will descend on the Holiday Inn Seattle Airport for three days.
Keynote Friday evening and Workshop on Jealousy Saturday by yours truly, Dossie, co-author The Ethical Slut.
FLYING ON WINGS OF PAIN Folsom Fringe Friday, 7:00 - 8:30 PM
September 23, 2010
CARAS - 10:40 AM SHADOWPLAY: BDSM Journeys through trauma to healing.
July 3, 2010
3 Wise Women of Polyamory! Explore the Future of Love on Planet Earth Dossie Easton, Serena Anderlini & Deborah Taj Anapol Click here for full details July 3, 11:00 am to 7:00 pm at Open Secret Bookstore, in San Rafael, CA
Early-bird and group discount pricing now available!
August 7, 2010
Portland Leather Pride - Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy, and Rae Goldman 4 Workshops Info at www.pdxbadgirls.net
Radical Ecstasy and Polyamory Weekend San Diego, CA Friday - Meet and Greet Saturday and Sunday - One-day workshop of Radical Ecstasy, One-day workshop of Polyamory Details TBA
Workshop and Book Signing at A Different Light 1:00 - 3:00 pm A Different Light Bookstore 489 Castro (between Market and 18th), SF New! The Ethical Slut Second EditionThe Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures. from Ten Speed Press Two years in the writing, Dossie and Janet have expanded (by twenty-five per cent), updated and improved original Slut - I'm very excited about this. Didn't realize till I started writing that I had so much more to say. There are new chapters (Opening an Existing Relationship, Lifestyles of the Single Slut) and extensive rewriting, especially in the area of jealousy and conflict. I am very grateful for my clients over the last eleven years since the original Slut was published in 1997, for all I have learned from them and gotten to share with you in the new edition. New Slut features a series of exercises in communication with others in and with yourself so you can strengthen your slut muscles.
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Shadowplay Personae: Roleplay on the Dark Side with the Society of Janus 5:00 - 6:00 pm - Sandwich Social 6:00 - 8:00 pm - Program Center for Sex and Culture 1519 Mission Street (between 11th & South Van Ness), SF Note: This class is open to Janus members and non-members Cost: $5 (Janus members and reciprocal organizations) $15 (All others) Sandwich Social: $5 "I know my fantasies have dirty roots" When we explore the dark side of our fantasies we can reclaim forbidden feelings, live out all of our personae, explore archetypal roles, and use the special boundaries of an erotic role play to safely experience parts of ourselves that don't fit in everyday reality. In this workshop we will learn how to provide for emotional and physical safety as we plan our journeys into the shadowy sea of our deepest unconscious selves. Who are your precious inner sexy characters? How can you enact them and let other people interact with them? And then what might happen? Let's try it and find out! We will use tantric breath work and shamanic journeying techniques to bring our precious inner perverts into consciousness and into connection. As a therapist, Dossie has been invited into the darker sides of many people's psyches, and has much to say about how our fantasies can inform our growth and also promote wonderful connections and sexual journeys.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Sex with Emily on KCBS Radio, 97.3 FM Interview about the new Ethical Slut. 10:30 - 11:30 pm
February 4, 2012, 9
– 4 PM Voices
From the Margins: Cultural Competence with BDSM
Clients Presented by Dossie Easton,
Location: Town Center Community Room, 770
Tamalpais Drive, Corte Madera Cost: CIP Members: $65 or $75 after January
21, 2012 Non-Members: $100 or $110 after January
21, 2012 CEUs: 6 CEUs approved for MFTs & LCSWs,
and 6 CEUs approved by the MCEPAA for psychologists
goal of this seminar is to increase participants'
understanding and information about BDSM practices
and lifestyles, including reality-based knowledge
of what BDSM players actually do and how they
negotiate consent and plan for physical and emotional
safety. Participants will learn a psychodynamic
approach that will help them understand why people
are drawn to these practices and how they could
use the support of therapy to unpack the narrative
or personal mythos enacted in their play with
power and eroticism. Participants will learn
how to maintain a nonjudgmental stance, ask respectful
questions and create a safe environment in their
consulting rooms so that their BDSM clients will
feel free to share their realities and discuss
their issues in the therapeutic encounter.
Dossie Easton, MFT is a therapist in private
practice in San Francisco, co-author of four books
about BDSM with Janet Hardy. Ms. Easton has been
offering professional services to the communities
of sexual minorities for the last 20 years. Before
that she was an educator and counselor, since
1969. She has more than 30 years training and
experience working with survivors of domestic
violence and child physical and sexual abuse.