My co-author, Janet W. Hardy, and I have written five books on various aspects of BDSM, sex, and relationships.Three of them are in their second editions, all are still in print. Writing these works with Janet has been an amazing, enlightening, and transforming experience – I am so grateful.Everyone should have a co-author.
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationship & Other Adventures This classic guidebook for the sexually adventurous includes discussion of lifestyle choices and how to negotiate them, learning curves for unlearning jealousy, and many new models for different kinds of relationships that could enrich our lives.
In April of 2009 we proudly published the second edition of The Ethical Slut. The new edition is informed by ten more years of further travels on the paths of sluttery, and in particular my last ten years working as therapist with a wonderful range of lifestyles and relationships. We have included exercises you can try, more information about the internet, new chapters on opening an existing relationship, and a new section on the lifestyles of single sluts. Our world is very rich right now with new paradigms of relationships. Our book explores all the possible roles that sharing sex can play in connecting people. Now Available as an Audio Book narrated by the Authors!
The New Bottoming Book
The second edition of this popular guide to "how to get terrible things done to you by wonderful people" is a must-read for anyone looking to explore BDSM. You will find tons of useful information about safe, sane and consensual S/M play. We cover myths and realities, how to negotiate a scene and discover your limits, techniques for play, role playing, and spiritual journeys. We explain many strategies for how to feel free to reach out for what you want, and how to make a scheme for safety in an exciting field of risk. Available as an Audio Book narrated by the Authors!
This second edition of the popular Topping Book offers information and friendly support in “getting good at being bad.” The beginning top will find useful information about safety, techniques, scripting a scene, negotiating consent, and initiating the scenes you have always dreamed of. Dare to live out your fantasies, discover your precious inner villain, and offer safe, sane, consensual and exquisitely nasty hot sex and sensation to your eager and adoring admirers. Available as an Audio Book narrated by the Authors!
We wrote this book as a gentle introduction to BDSM lifestyles. Designed to introduce people with no experience to the leather community, this book explains what S/M players do and how we make it safe. We wrote this book for leather people to give to family and friends who wish to understand our lifestyle.
We have received many calls, letters, and emails of heartfelt thanks from partners and families who found ways to understand and go on loving each other after reading this book. Sometimes we actually got to save marriages. We are honored that people outside of our community are willing to listen and learn about our lifestyles. We know from experience that knowledge about healthy S/M practice will relieve fears. We aim to free everyone from negative mythology about BDSM and the loving and lovable people who practice it.
Radical Ecstasy: S/M Journeys to Transcendence
Radical Ecstasy: S/M Journeys to Transcendence chronicles our journeys into S/M spiritual practice. As co-authors and lovers we explore, separately and together, the intersection of S/M and Tantra, in a powerful practice that is becoming known around the world. I have taught workshops and weekends in England, Ireland, Germany, the Netherlands, Canada, and all over the United States. In this book, we describe what we have learned and experienced, and we offer what might be of use to you on your own journeys.
Too many people believe that sexuality and spirituality are mutually exclusive or somehow opposed to each other. Sex is a wonderful manifestation of spirit moving in our lives, in our bodies, and between each other. Sexual sharing creates intense connections and generates great waves of love. Nothing could be more sacred than the sharing of our sexual fire. Available as an Audio Book narrated by the Authors!